Dating for three months
” Love takes time and knowledge and there will be plenty of time if this is it. Travel together, cook together, spend long weekends together but keep your own place and space. Notice when things start feeling more realistic and differences start rising. Use the time to get to know each other, your friends, families, interests and activities (even maybe, your sexual rhythms ‘cause you know a long relationship can’t last if both parties aren’t willing to sexually please the other.)Don’t move in or make other long-term commitments. It takes time to know someone and many different shared experiences, so just hang on and enjoy this fun time of getting to know each other and try to stay aware that that is what’s going on. In these first 90 days, the biggest thing going on is the clouded attempt to make you like each other. Enjoy all the flowers and lovely dates and long talks.Spend time together doing as many different things as you can think of. Think of different endearing ways to admire and appreciate each other but don’t say I love you, don’t move in together and don’t make any long term commitments. It takes a bit of personal work to maintain an awareness when our hormones are surging around like crazy because nature made us a little crazy when it comes to love – or more precisely the mating game. Despite being very sophisticated and civilized, we humans are animals after all and that being said, there are a few things about animal instinct and the innate urge to mate that we seem to overlook when we meet someone special and start down that path of falling in love … The reason we overlook it is even built in and natural!
It feels natural and it’s easy to do because both of you want to please the other so everything seems to be flowing so smoothly. you don’t know each other yet – no matter how much you talk and share secrets you’ve never told anyone else!
First, be aware that the feelings you are having in the first three months are mostly hormone induced chemical reactions that are urging you to have sex and reproduce.
You’re more sophisticated than that, so just be aware that your own chemical responses are leading you astray and don’t mistake these feelings for real love or a soul mate connection.
Meet each other’s friends and try to pay attention to them, they will tell you a lot about your new love. I mean, really, would you loan your car to someone to drive out of state with that you had only known 6 or 8 weeks?
Meet each other ‘s family’s if that’s on the agenda for you and don’t sweat about it. Your heart and your life are far more precious than a car. This is why many generations have advised not being sexual too quickly or spending too much time together in the early days.